I wrote about Chad and DeAnn who took the road that Mark and I didn’t take.
Mark and I went to Chad’s wedding last weekend. It was a celebration in moving forward. He married a woman he has worked with for the past 10 years. They became close in the wake of his divorce–something she’d experienced. When shared [...]
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Not every story ends in staying together…
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on November 7, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Perspective and Advice
Posted in The Good Stuff, Uncategorized, tagged affair recovery on September 19, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
As you might imagine, I don’t check this site often. I’m not a counselor. I wasn’t kidding that all I have to share is my story.
So when I popped in today, I loved reading comments saying this site helps. (Of course, if I had my wish, I’d trade the story for a big fairy godmother’s wand and [...]
Two year update
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on May 16, 2009 | 1 Comment »
It’s been two years…in case you are wondering here are the updates:
On the marriage. I truly enjoy our life together. Laughter with our kids. Cooking dinner. Hanging out watching TV because we like all the same shows. Long talks. Hugs. Holding hands. Watching squirrels in the backyard. Household projects. Inside jokes. Dreams. Plans. The marriage [...]
The Long Road Ahead…
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on July 24, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I wish I could give you a “secret formula” to get through this. To speed up the process. Lord knows, I looked for one. Hard. In desperation…
What I can tell you with confidence is that you can come through this and find yourself in a better place than you were before this marriage-ending event.
This year [...]
Advice from a friend
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on July 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I asked a friend once who had been through a major betrayal (not an affair but equally devastating) how he “got over it.”
His answer surprised me. He said, “It came down to who I wanted to be.”
This week, a friend of mine who divorced this year was “toasting her husband with piss and vinegar” on [...]
Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on June 1, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I learned something unexpectedly freeing today.
There is a passage in Matthew I’ve always wrestled with… It is in Chapter 18…
Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven.
Have [...]
Gettting yourself back
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on April 7, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
The day I learned about the affair, I lost me.
All of my memories of Mark and I became poisoned. I lost the joy that is core to who I am. I lost my creativity. I lost the feeling I had of being safe. I lost my ability to casually interact with other people.
My guess is [...]
Doing it right
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on January 30, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Last night, as Mark and I were running errands I repeated a story Lisa had shared with me that morning about her 20th high school reunion. Her high school sweetheart had asked her to dinner to catch up. She didn’t think it would be right to go alone, so she took a friend with her. [...]
God speaks
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on January 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Tonight driving home I felt horrible. I couldn’t even tell you what started the crash, but I wanted to quit. Everything inside me wants to believe that Mark is the hero. That his heart is true. That I really am the princess in the fairy tale and that we will live happily ever after. But [...]
An unexpected breakthrough
Posted in The Good Stuff, tagged affair recovery on November 29, 2007 | Leave a Comment »
The crashes didn’t stop and without the Paxil I could feel them fully.
One particularly bad one had me searching on the Internet for a place I could go for treatment. I was in trouble and needed help.
I found a retreat center in Houston called the Serenity Retreat center that practiced something I’d never heard of [...]
